Days of Change

Community Esteem | October 4, 2015

Ace of Spades commented on an article from Milo Yiannopoulos about the UCC shooter. The premise of the Breitbart piece was that feminism was restricting the nature of boys to conquer and defeat opponents to the point where they crack. I actually liked Ace’s point better than the alpha males still get to do that, but the “loser” men in society get beaten down by feminist dogma more readily.

There was a shooting a while back where the perpetrator made a video about how he didn’t have sexual access to cheerleaders and it made him want to shoot people. And this kid’s family had some money. Ace mentioned other males in the world who were throwing their lives away.

And there’s always this sort of Failed Man in every society. Japan has a lot of Failed Men. In Japan, there has been a response to realizing one was a Failed Man: Suicide.

In America, these Failed Men still long for suicide, but they wish to be famous, and they’re lonely for company in their way to the grave.

I think this goes back to the difference between boys and girls. Women have been directed toward certain life choices and careers. Men have been directed towards others. Even without that same pressure, men are still construction workers and women are still secretaries in disproportionate numbers. For girls in school, the solution was to instill self-esteem about how great they are. I think this works to some extent because women are more suggestible than men, something that I expect to catch hell for in comments.

For boys, this self-esteem is processed differently. Boys already think they are the most important persons in the world. Normally, life and activities would give them the lesson that they are not. Instead, all the external factors adults control are geared toward either not keeping score in a game or handing out prizes regardless of outcome or effort. What happens when everyone says you can do anything and reality shows otherwise? You learn everyone around you is stupid. Now, you’ve created a man who has low self-esteem and low esteem for everyone else.

That’s my theory of the young male shooter. He can’t find his place in the world, but he blames the world for it. The worst people in the word are the ones he interacts with every day, like fellow students. He didn’t learn to fight to win, he learned that violence was wrong. He then discovered HE was wrong because he couldn’t get the things in life everyone is supposedly entitled to. He couldn’t become a PC hero. Instead, he becomes a powerful villain. I doubt that all the media blackouts in the world will fix this, either. These shooters aren’t thinking about the TV segment a week after he’s cold in the ground. He’s thinking of the power of life and death he holds in his hands in that room while it’s happening.

The bad news is that there’s not much of a solution I can give. It seems to me that a religious upbringing would help a young man see a reality more important than himself. The UCC shooter could have used a religious experience.


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  1. That was really well said. You won’t catch any flack from me.

    I do agree, a religious upbringing or at least a spiritual life of some kind goes a long way towards teaching people that it isn’t all about them, all of the time. We’re living in a very self centered time right now, lots of narcissists, special snow flakes, and selfies.

    Comment by insanitybytes22 — October 4, 2015 @ 2:51 pm

  2. 1. The UCC shooter could have used a religious experience.

    He did. He shot 9 people in the head because they were Christian.

    2. the “loser” men in society get beaten down by feminist dogma

    Oh, please, 15. don’t make me invent the wheel all over again.

    How’s this for a novel idea: individual responsibility.

    3. These shooters [are] thinking of the power of life and death he holds in his hands in that room while it’s happening.

    This guy was a bloody psychotic. We have no idea what his “thoughts” were. Maybe all he experienced were feral sensations, or visions of Martians or some other hallucination or delusion, or an orgasm. Could he, then, have been responsible for his own actions. Maybe, if he had received long-term psychiatric/medical treatment. Or maybe he just should have been locked away years ago. Or maybe his parents should have alerted police to the fact that their severely mentally ill son owned almost a dozen guns.

    Comment by Mary — October 4, 2015 @ 11:55 pm

    • This guy come off as a textbook neo Republican type. Those are the ones who like tax cuts and metropolitan living, but don’t understand cultural or religious conservatives.

      I can tell you, I get this person’s mindset. There’s this elite class that seems to have all the power and culture behind them to make you feel like the bad guy. At the same time, they are deathly afraid of guns and determination.

      Personally, I have ethics and the sense God gave me. However, someone with no moral or religious upbringing sees the left treating him like the bad guy and religious conservatives telling him to let it go and turn the other cheek. This balance works in 99.99% of the population.

      Again, I am writing about the sliver of the population whose suicidal instincts turn homicidal. I think this is a case where teaching men not to be aggressive is stupid and backfires. It absolutely does not prevent “rampages.” It may exacerbate them.

      Comment by 1539days — October 5, 2015 @ 6:27 pm

      • Your sociological approach and my psychological one both have merit. However, neither avenue admits of a quick solution to saving lives. The answer to that one is easy and statistically sound: outlaw gun free zones, aka “shooting galleries with the targets of your choice.” If I were still teaching, I would not work in such a sitting duck environment.

        Comment by Mary — October 6, 2015 @ 12:24 am

      • Absolutely. Except for the fact that it’s illegal, I don’t see why a good Christian doesn’t carry a concealed weapon on them. Of course, they would probably be arrested for killing a murderer before the police could.

        Comment by 1539days — October 6, 2015 @ 4:31 am

      • Irony = truth in a bitter pill

        Comment by Mary — October 7, 2015 @ 12:29 am

  3. “I think this is a case where teaching men not to be aggressive is stupid and backfires. It absolutely does not prevent “rampages.” It may exacerbate them.”

    That’s interesting. I think there may be some truth behind that. This guy had no father around, his mother tried to quiet the neighborhood dogs and children so he wouldn’t feel provoked, but nobody showed him what to do with his rage and frustration, about what feelings are normal to being a man. We try to medicate boys these days, to teach them that aggression is bad, but it’s only bad when it doesn’t have the right way to express itself.

    Comment by insanitybytes22 — October 5, 2015 @ 8:23 pm

    • Good point. I never did see the virtue in making little boys Play with dolls instead of guns. That isn’t the way nature made them.

      Comment by Mary — October 6, 2015 @ 12:29 am

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